Saturday, January 10, 2015

Should You Stay or Should You Go...In Church?



My daughter posted a link on Facebook the other day about why people are “really” leaving the church lately. Given that’s a subject that I take an interest in, I was eager to see what the author had to say, so I clicked right in and read it. And for good measure, I let it sit for a day and then read it again.
Part of the comments made I could identify with immediately. I’ve been caught in discussions before where the emphasis was far more on using the right term than understanding the thought and context behind it. Other parts left me more than a little baffled, as the man described responses from the church that I’ve never experienced, and in my roughly forty-five years attendance, spotty during life periods to be sure, I’ve gone to more than a few. And that’s a part of my problem with the author’s reasoning.

The tendency in the country today, maybe in world, is to lump local, individual bodies into some huge, over-arching unit. People talk about “the church,” or “law enforcement,” or “mortgage bankers,” or whatever else they seem to have a gripe with as though it was some kind of monolithic hive-mind, with every member marching lockstep (possibly in jack boots), as they race to the next scene to squash all hope of dissent. Okay, so a bit of hyperbole applied as my own frustration shows. I think I’m a little entitled.

“The church” is not “a church,” or ten churches, or a thousand. The church is countless millions, meeting separately across the states and the rest of the world each week. They meet at different times and places, preach different sermons, emphasize different projects, represent every conceivable background. The translations of scripture they use, and more recently even the scriptures they consider “valid,” vary enormously in church buildings less than a mile apart. What the author lists as the reasons people are leaving “the church,” apply to some churches greatly, some lightly, many not at all. Which leads me to my second, and really big, problem with the author’s position.

Once you get past the false gentleness and humility, strip it down to the rhetoric, you are left with self-serving whining and-… No, that’s pretty much it.

The article or posting or however you classify it is framed as a letter, but one that clearly expects or desires no reply. His words are crystal. Listen silently. Accept my judgment of you, but yield none of your own. And remember, I’m the one that’s leaving you. You failed me.
There is one passage in article that sounds so poignant, so plaintive, until you actually put it context. The author speaks about needing a church that is tough enough to demonstrate God’s love to the people it is failing, and because the church can’t, people like him are leaving. The irony would be hilarious if it were not so infuriating.

The church is not the building, it is the body of believers. If he and those he claims to represent have faith, and he says they do, then they are the church. So, if he and his kind are the church, and they are walking away because the church just isn’t “tough” enough, whose fault is that? Where is that toughness supposed to come from when people won’t hang around because it isn’t too their liking? And if they leave because they feel the people in the congregation aren’t tolerant, where are these tolerant people supposed to come from? If changes are going to be made, not in one building but in a million, how will that happen when a generation that claims to want positive change runs without ever putting in the effort it takes to make it?

I know that there are a lot of hurting people out there, I truly do. And I know that a lot of them come to church hoping to find a lot of things, things like hope and peace and joy. I’ve been there, and I sympathize. I also know that there are a lot of people out there, but they are looking for something different, something very much like magic. Or they are looking for a place where everyone is warm and caring and supportive and never cranky and I don’t know what else. I don’t think they’ll ever find it, but I’m pretty sure they won’t find in a church, at least not pre-Apocalypse.

When questioned why he fraternized with sinners one time, Christ replied that it was not well people who required a doctor, but those who were sick. Churches are not spiritual “well zones.” At their best, they are out-patient clinics, with the congregation making steady progress. If the author expects or hopes for anymore, then I would recommend that he roll up his sleeves and grab a bed pan. Frankly, I don’t think he will, but if he did he would be taking a really large step toward finding contentment in the church. He would be focusing on someone besides himself.

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